I swallow a deep sob because some things are best swallowed. That’s not dirty, swallowing. Take it down, your medicine.
Kind words make me sad because I can feel the hard edges of them. I can feel the tenderness of my own soul, and I wish I was just a hair harder. Which makes no sense because hair breaks very easily but there is nothing that can be done to make it stronger. It’s already dead.
My aunt died. She’s dead, not dying. I wasn’t around much when she was just living.
What I remember most is how her blue eyes welled with tears when she was in pain and lonely. At the funeral, did they cry for her or did they cry for me? I didn’t go to the visitation. I didn’t want to see her dead. I’d seen her plenty when she was dying. They said she looked as though she were smiling. What I remember are tears that they didn’t see her shed. And then at the funeral, I saw their tears, too, and realized I am maybe only witness to her dying and her death. Her collapse and theirs.
This isn’t a poem, only a thought. This isn’t broken, this is breaking.
At the funeral
it was brief
the service
the prayer
my unmuffled sobs
They were all doing fine
not a sound
and then at the end
my shoulders shook
until everyone’s shoulders shook
At the funeral
they had their suffering too
and then at the end
unmuffled sobs
and shoulders that shook
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June 18, 2009 at 2:10 pm
mariana
I am sorry but just can’t bear the thought of death right now. Maybe just can bear the thought.
Anyway just wondering if instead of swallowing you spit outcome might be better, because in a way you are physically letting it go.
June 19, 2009 at 6:39 am
medicatedlady
Swallowing is another way of saying I internalize everything…even though I shouldn’t. I have no idea how to spit.
Death and grief are rarely convenient.
June 30, 2009 at 1:14 pm
jessiecarty
sorry to hear about your loss 😦