Consider it written in stone. The stone at the head of a non-descript grave at a non-descript cemetery on the outskirts of some field in the middle of nowhere. Here she lies.
This is how it will go. Tomorrow, there will be tears. Tomorrow, there will be a long, sad drive home and an even longer, sadder drive back to the place I live.
It’s hard to say how many people will be there. It’s summer, you know, and there will be no church service. I imagine only family and one or two friends will come.
The family will hug me. They will tell me how thankful they are that I went to see her when she was so ill and no one else was able to visit. Able. Inwardly, I will cringe at this word. Inwardly, I will feel hate and spite.
The family will tell me they love me after they’ve told me and each other what a big “help” I was, as if I’d gone to pick up their prescriptions downtown and not sat beside her for hours while she cried because she was in pain and no one else would come see her. They’ll say they don’t know what they would have done without me. Some of them will list all the reasons why they couldn’t come to visit her when it mattered. I will make a parallel list of all the reasons they should have come. My list will be longer and more substantial.
They did not kill her, but they did break her heart. My tears will be for her and for the injustice of it all. Their tears will force me to forgive them, to stifle the outrage I feel, because I, of all people, know guilt and grief.
I wanted her dead and now she is.
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June 9, 2009 at 9:15 pm
1writegirl
We don’t grieve for that which we don’t love; forgive yourself your humanness, just as you forgive them theirs.
June 10, 2009 at 3:47 pm
poeticgrin
Any words I type will minimize what you’ve accomplished & felt & transferred through this post and the others about your Aunt. Let me set the emotion and grief aside and say you’ve got some remarkable writing here. I can see a chapbook coming out of it. That last line would be the last line of the chapbook. Devastating, but devastatingly strong.
June 11, 2009 at 7:58 am
medicatedlady
Thank you both.